Category: The Fearless Life

  • I Took A Quiz About Being Fearless From A 2010 “O” Magazine.  This Is What I Found…

    I Took A Quiz About Being Fearless From A 2010 “O” Magazine. This Is What I Found…

    A few weeks ago, my fiancé and I were helping my mom with some Spring cleaning in my parents garage.  “This is going to be donated” and “This is going in the trash” were two of my most popular rants off the day after going through box after box of things I deemed “unnecessary”.  Until I ran across an Oprah Magazine from November 2010.   What made it different from all of the other magazines that went into the recycling bin is what was on the cover:  The Quiz That Reveals Whats Holding You Back and Helps You Move On page 176.   This was a sign.  I was meant to find this, right?!

     

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    I stashed the mag in my bag.  I can’t be caught keeping an old ass magazine when I had been going off all afternoon about how she needed to get rid of them.  Ya feel me?!  Nevertheless, after a long day of cleaning.  I went home, poured a glass of red and turned to page 176.   “What’s Holding You Back?”  8 questions will help me find out, huh?!  Well, let’s see what happens….
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    My answers ended up being mostly “E” responses on odd numbers and mostly “A” responses on even numbers.  Apparently, I’m ready for change.
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    I can’t say that I was too surprised about the results.  Truth is, if I would’ve taken the quiz 5 years ago, the results would be COMPLETELY different.  I’ve been through everything question on the quiz.  Let me explain…
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    #1. Working in an office setting for over 13 years, so I knew all too well what is was like to to apply for another department.  I also knew getting declined all of the time because the managers’ friend was a better fit for the position, all too well.

    #2.  I started a business which helps to support me.  Which means, I have no desire to return to an un-fulfilling 9 to 5.   But 5 years ago, leaving a job to make money solely off my business made me want to faint.

    #3. I’ve always found happiness getting paid to do something else but it was much lower.  5 years ago, all i cared about the paycheck.  Now, it’s more than that.

    #4.  My boss has gotten fired.  5 years ago, I would’ve stayed.  Now, I would’ve taken that spot with no hesitation.

    #5. I have heard from the doctor that my body was reacting to stress.  5 years ago, that stressed me out.  Now, I shake stress off.  No time in my life for that to linger.

    #6. I did leave a long-term job to pursue my dreams.  5 years ago, I would’ve begged and pleaded to keep the job.

    #7. I started talking about owning a boutique before shopping online was a “thing”.  5 years ago, I didn’t think BLB would exist.  Look at me now!

    #8.  I did work in a bank but for much longer than 8 years.  And most of that was spent hating that I had to sit behind a desk all day.  I was drawn to fashion.  5 years ago, I would’ve stayed behind that desk and complained until retirement.  Now, if it doesn’t make me feel good, I’m out.  Period.

    After taking the quiz, I took a second to reflect on my fearless journey, so far.  I never realized just how far I have come.  Granted, I’m not where I want to be.  But I’m surely not where I was.  There was a time when I let fear hold me back from doing anything.  I didn’t want to disrupt what I thought was “normal”.  I didn’t want to go against the grain.  I just followed along to get along because that’s what I thought I was supposed to do.  But those days are long gone!
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    Take the quiz, check out the results, and let me know, “What’s holding you back?”  in the comments…
    Stay Fearless 💋
  • 7 Daily Mantras To Get A Fearless Woman Through The Week

    7 Daily Mantras To Get A Fearless Woman Through The Week

    Being fearless doesn’t mean you won’t get scared shitless of things, of course you will be.  You are human!  It just means that you are willing to push past the fear to see whats on the other side.  There will be days when you feel like accepting fear, simply because its’ easier.  Here are a weeks’ worth of mantras to get you through those days…

    *weeklyfearlessmantras*

    The next time you are having one of those days, look in the mirror and repeat.  😉 Which of these are you feeling??  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

     

  • Fearless Woman: Lauren Darlington

    Fearless Woman: Lauren Darlington

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday!  We are back with another episode of Fearless Woman.  Laurens’ story just might be the one you’re waiting on.

    When I started looking for women to feature in this installment, her story really stuck out to me.  Simply because she addresses fear in a way that I have yet to hear.  I will give you a clue.  Her email:

    Hi! I would LOVE to be apart of this as I know I have a message to share that can (and does) help so many. I believe being fearless is about knowing fear will always show up, she can come along for the journey with us but she does not have the driver seat. We show up and do the thing we want because we know we can even with fear.

    I have overcome self harm, suicide attempts, sexual trauma and crippling anxiety to travel solo overseas twice last year, start my own business and empower other women when I once wanted to end it all.

    If that isn’t being a fearless (or fear inclusive ;) ) woman I don’t know what is,

    Enough said.  After learning more about her background, I must agree.  Here is Lauren:

     Special thanks to Lauren for sharing such a personal story.  She is a true example of what it is like to go through mounds of obstacles…fearlessy!

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    Feeling inspired??  Let me know in the comments…  Now, go out and do something fearless this weekend.

    Stay Fearless 💋


    Want to share you fearless story?  Send an email with a short bio to Kristie@bluelabelsboutique to apply.
  • Fearless Woman Returns!  Meet Katrina – Jane

    Fearless Woman Returns! Meet Katrina – Jane

    Welcome back to a new season of Fearless Woman!   Yep, you read that right, Fearless Woman Friday is baaack.  If you are new to this, allow me to give you some deets.  Fearless Woman is a weekly FNF video series where we give props to women.  But these women aren’t sitting on the couch watching life go by.  No ma’am…these ladies are doing what we like to call, fearless living.  They have decided to say “bye-bye” to fear and “hello” to living life on their own terms.  No matter what any of think about it!
    If you aren’t new to this then you know, that some serious inspiration is headed your way.  Thankfully, the premiere episode of this season doesn’t disappoint!  This week, you will be meeting Katrina- Jane.  Katrina went through a severe depression and was suicidal only 4 years ago.  After beating that beast, she wanted to find ways to to push her boundaries.  The one thing she became addicted to, well, let’s just say it has her questioning if she was a stripper in a past life.  I will let Katrina tell her own story…you will certainly enjoy it.

    Thanks so much to Katrina for sharing such a fearless story!  Feeling inspired?? Let me know in the comments…
    Stay Fearless 💋
  • 5 Tips That Will Make 2018 Your Most Fearless Year Yet!

    5 Tips That Will Make 2018 Your Most Fearless Year Yet!

    I say this all of the time and I will say it again…living fearlessy is not easy.  It is something that takes effort every, single day.  Accepting what life throws at you without making any effort to change it is easy.  Giving up on goals and running away from your dreams is a piece of cake.  Feeling the fear and doing it anyway…not so much.  These tips should help you make 2018 your most fearless year yet!

    Step Out Of Your history & Into Your Destiny 

    So you have made some mistakes in the past…who hasn’t?!  If you let your past mistakes determine your future, you will never be able to progress.  Find your destiny by leaving that crap in the past.  You can’t change it.  Focus on living in the future!

    K.I.M. – Keep It Moving

    Your decision to live fearlessy means changes are bound to happen.  Bold, exciting life events  like changing jobs, moving to a foreign place, leaving a bad relationship, starting a business are bound to happen.  One thing you must know about making these changes is that everyone will have an opinion about it.  Unsolicited advice will be coming from family, friends, co-workers, strangers and everyone in between.  People will put their fears off on you without even knowing it.   Not sharing so much or even cutting off people might be necessary to keep you on track.  No matter their thoughts remember you goals.  Cut the haters out of your life and keep it moving!

    Surround Yourself With People You Want To Be Like

    This tip goes hand and hand with K.I.M.  Maybe they have built a successful business or you admire the relationship they have with their spouse.  Perhaps they are ambitious or fitness fanatics.  You can’t go wrong surrounding yourself with people who motivate you.

    Think About What You Add To The Room 

    Walking into a room can be overwhelming, especially when you don’t know anyone.  This is a surefire why to shake your confidence a bit.  But instead of focusing on that; think about what you add to the room.   For instance, at business/professional events your experience as a stylist makes you an asset at a fashion show.  Your welcoming smile makes you approachable at a networking event.  Focus on the what you do add to the room rather than your fears.

    Be What You Are Missing To Yourself  

    Love yourself and be your own biggest fan.  Take yourself to the movies.  Enjoy a nice dinner alone.  Don’t wait for others to do it for you.  You will find people being drawn to you because of your positive, fearless energy.  Which in turn could influence them to want to feel the same type of energy.  Your vibe really does affects your tribe.

    When it is all said and done it all boils down to the fact that fear isn’t going anywhere. The feeling can pop up at any minute.  The question isn’t; “will I be afraid?”.  It is “how are you going to let it affect you?”  These tips will help you guide through your fearless life with ease.  2018….we are ready for you!

    Thoughts??  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

  • Fearless Woman: Melissa Wiringi

    Fearless Woman: Melissa Wiringi

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday

    In this weeks’ episode of Fearless Woman; you will meet Melissa Wiringi.  Melissa found herself in a drug-fueled, domestically violent relationship with the father of her two children.  Leaving her feeling hopeless until she decided that it was time to make a change.  Find out what she did, how, and deets on living the fearless life now!  Get ready to be inspired.

    To follow Melissa; you can find her on Facebook @melissahwiringi, and Twitter & Instagram @melissawiringi.

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    Feeling inspired?!  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

  • What Does Being Fearless Mean To You?

    What Does Being Fearless Mean To You?

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday!

    Instead of sharing the story of a fearless woman, I’m asking you to share.  Being fearless means different things to different people. Today, I want to hear from you. Answer the question below in the comments.

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    Lets talk!

        Stay Fearless 💋

  • Fearless Woman: Jackie Parry

    Fearless Woman: Jackie Parry

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday

    Todays fearless woman has such a great story!  It left me feeling like I have some real changes to make and questioning, “Am I doing enough?” 🤔   This is why…

    Jackie Parry is a professional Maritime commercial skipper, Maritime teacher and author of four best-selling books.  She’s also a speaker on topics including sailing, travel, life, writing and navigation.

    Now you see what I mean?!  I couldn’t wait to share this fearless womans story of how she happily lives the fearless life on her own terms.  But I’ll let her tell her own story.  Let the inspiration begin…

    Check out some of these breathtaking pictures from some of her travels.

    What do you think of Jackies’ journey?!  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

  • Fearless Woman: Renee Lopez

    Fearless Woman: Renee Lopez

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday!

    I am excited to introduce you to this weeks’ fearless woman.  Renee Lopez was a college soccer coach for over 14 years.  She is an entrepreneur who created a business where she does leadership development and coaching education programs.  As a certified speaker, trainer, and coach; she has worked with the John Maxwell Team and Jon Gordon companies to name a few.   Renee also has done leadership training programs for State Farm Insurance and various companies.  You might have heard her recent interview on an ESPN radio interview where she discusses mindset, confidence, and the college recruiting process.  She has put all of this experience in her book, Looking For A Full Ride?

     

    Thoughts on Renees’ fearless journey?!  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

     

  • 11 Tips To Finding Your Happy, Fearless Place

    11 Tips To Finding Your Happy, Fearless Place

    “Happiness is not a destination, its a state of mind.”

    I’m sure you’ve heard that one before!  It resonates with me.  I’ve always wanted to be happy.  Who doesn’t?!  But what does it take to be in that state of mind?

    I’ve been working on this whole fearless lifestyle thing for a few years now. One thing is  for sure; it’s not easy.  I guess if it was, everyone would be doing it.  I’m a work in progress.  I’ll happily admit that.  Hell, I will still curse you out if you cut me off on the highway.  I just choose not to let those small things define my day.  I’m no therapist, life coach, or guru of all things.  Just a 30-something fashion entrepreneur who wants life to be as full as possible.  Here are 11 things that help keep me on the track to being my happiest self.

     

    #1. Exercise

    That whole endorphin thing is true! Exercise has a way of helping you shake off the stress. It doesn’t have to be a full hour sweat session. Try taking a walk around your block.

    #2. Not Giving A Fuck

    Bothering yourself with others think about you, your actions, your outfit, etc; is nothing but a waste of time. And a way to fit your head with negativity.  It might sound easier said then done, but you will find yourself alot happier when you stop giving a fuck about others opinions.

    #3. Unplug From Social Media

    Social media is time consuming!  Spend less time looking at what others want you to think their life is like and spend more time focusing on the things in your life that make you happy.

    #4. Set Boundaries 

    This is a hard one and one that I’m constantly battling with.  Text messages, calls, and emails, DMs, pings…can be overwhelming . Not to mention those that text to followup on the text that they sent 3 minutes before.  Or that person who always needs you to run an errand for them or look something up online, etc.  It’s enough to drive you insane! Set a scheduled time to check & respond to emails every day.  Let everyone know your “rules” and leave it at that. If they don’t get it, ignore them and follow the rules you have set for yourself.  They will get the picture eventually.

    #5. Keep A Journal 

    Have you ever had a million things on your brain. But things become instantly clear having a conversation with mom or bae? The same works with a journal. Writing down your innermost thoughts is freeing…trust me on this one!

    #6. Laugh Instead of Crying

    Life is unpredictable and there isn’t anything you can do about it. When you find yourself at a breaking point…instead of crying, burst out into a loud boisterous laugh. It will help to lighten your mood and hopefully change your perspective of the situation.

    #7. Enjoy A Tall Glass 

    When all else fails, pour up a nice glass of your favorite cocktail and chill.

    #8. Helping Someone Else 

    It is easy to sulk in your own mess until you meet someone who is worse. Sometimes its all about perspective. If you stopped and took a look around, you might find that things aren’t as bad as you think. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, help the Red Cross with the Hurricane Harvey victims, be a mentor to kids. You might notice that life isn’t so bad after all. Plus, it will give you a greater sense of gratitude.

    #9. Let Others Fight Their Own Battle

    I can’t tell you the amount of times I have found myself in the middle of a disagreement that had absolutely nothing to do with me!  Before you know it; both parties are mad at you.  When your intention was only to help mediate the situation.  Be it friends or family, let people fight their own battles.  Stay out of it!

    #10. Put Yourself First 

    Mom, wife, business owner, daughter; it doesn’t matter how many hats you wear.  You must be most important person in your life in order to be your best at any of them. Rather it’s enjoying quiet time on the porch with a cup of coffee or getting a manicure; be sure to do something for yourself.

    #11. Make The Choice

    Being happy is a choice, it’s not automatic.  You have to CHOOSE to be happy each day; it requires real effort.  Getting an attitude about traffic, rude people, receiving the wrong food is irritating.  But a mood changer it is not.  Throw them the finger (literally or figuratively) and keep it moving!  Once you get used to choosing to have a good day, you will be in your fearless, happy place in no time.

    Which tips will you use? Are there any you would add?  Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋