Tag: self love

  • 4 Ways To Start Feeling More Confident

    4 Ways To Start Feeling More Confident

    Some people are always sure of themselves. They seem to be able to handle and breeze through whatever life throws at them. Of course, sometimes this is just how it looks on the outside. Many people are good at making it look like they are confident when, in reality, they have very low self-esteem.

    People also have a hard time being themselves and letting their personalities shine through because they are frightened and don’t have enough confidence. If you don’t have the confidence to do what you want, it can be hard to live the life you want and do all the things you want to do.

    But don’t worry; you can teach yourself to have confidence. So, in this blog post, we’ll look at some of the ways you can quickly become more confident and happy.

    Help Others

    When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we tend to focus on what we think are our flaws. We keep thinking about this instead of what we can do. So, if you help other people and make them feel good about themselves, it will automatically make you feel better about yourself.

    Relax More

    Many people use products to help them with this. These kinds of products can help you feel more relaxed and sure of yourself. You feel more at peace and happy with the world around you. When you feel this way, it’s natural that you’ll have more confidence.

    Invest in a pampering session. We all deserve to be pampered now and then, and there’s no doubt that this can do wonders for your confidence. It doesn’t matter if you’re getting a new haircut or going to get your nails done. Do something that will make you happy with yourself. Why don’t you make an appointment for a massage or facial? There are some great spa packages available today that are made to make you feel rested and well at the end. You could even treat yourself to a diamond tennis bracelet.

    Be Ready

    One of the main reasons many people don’t feel confident in many situations is that they haven’t done enough to prepare. After all, going to work or school without being ready for the day can cause stress. You can start to feel scared and doubt your skills. But if you had just set aside some time to plan and get ready for the day, you would feel much calmer and in control. Small things like this can make a big difference when it comes to making you feel better about yourself. When you know that everything is in order and that you’re ready for the day ahead, you can naturally approach it with more confidence.

    Stay Away From Bad Things

    Now you need to start thinking about your inner circle, which of course includes all of your friends and family. Think about this, and think about whether there is anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself. People who don’t feel good about themselves often try to bring down those around them, which is not a good trait to have. You need to put yourself first and think about what will help you grow and make you feel good about yourself. Spend more time with people like this.

    So, there you have it: some of the things you should think about if you want to become a much happier and more confident person quickly. We hope that the ideas above will be helpful to you.

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  • Boost your Style Confidence Today with this Ultimate Guide

    Not everyone has an innate sense of style. Some people have to learn how to be stylish. If this sounds like you, then you have nothing to worry about. There are many things you can do to try and turn things around and if you follow this guide, you’ll find that it is easier than ever for you to get the results you’re looking for.

    Stop Waiting

    If you always procrastinate about trying to reach a target weight or even getting your dream job then you will never end up achieving what you want in life. Make sure that you do not put your style on hold, and instead, invest the time that you have now. You will feel instantly better about yourself, and this can have a huge impact on your confidence. Remember if you don’t feel good, you’ll never think you look good, so this is a crucial step in your journey.

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    Separating your Body Issues

    A great body doesn’t equal a great style. Style is never limited to a certain size or shape. You need to try and accept the parts of your body that you do like as well as the parts that you don’t. Don’t let them hinder the development of your style either. It is more than possible for you to work with your perceived flaws, and still be stylish at the end of the day. There are many tricks that you can use to try and detract from the problem areas you may feel as though you have, so make sure that you play up to your best features, and then go from there. Remember, if you aren’t happy with your smile then it is possible for you to seek help from an orthodontic care specialist.

    Ditch what makes you unhappy

    Ditch What Makes you Feel Bad

    Ditch any clothes that happen to make you feel bad, or that do not flatter you. The same applies to baggy clothes too. A lot of people have the tendency to hang on to clothes that fit them during their more youthful years, hoping that one day they will be able to fit back into them. This won’t do you any favours, in fact, it will actually end up instilling a sense of failure. If you have to keep items, then pack them away and put them in your attic, or in a suitcase. Everything in your wardrobe should spark a sense of joy.

    Practice Approval

    Take a bit of time to think about the clothes that make you happy, and why this is the case. It doesn’t matter whether it is a set color, an outfit, or anything else. You need to look at why you are wearing that particular piece, and what it is you enjoy about it. If you wear something because it makes you feel confident, then use this as a building block and then try to hone your style. If you can do this, then you will soon find that it is easier for you to feel your best every single day.

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  • Does Self-Love Mean You Have To Show It All?

    Does Self-Love Mean You Have To Show It All?

    Having a positive image of your body is so important.  It is probably something that our parents don’t help us with enough.  They say, “Love yourself”, “Go to school”, and “Eat your vegetables”.  But there should definitely be more sayings flying around the house along the lines of “love the body you were given”, “don’t compare yourself to others”, “having a big butt or big boobs doesn’t make you beautiful” and “don’t give someone the power to think you aren’t pretty enough because you don’t fit into their box”.

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    Granted…these are all things that I know now.  But I’ll admit that it took me some time to grow up and understand that.

    During my teens and 20s,  I had the misconception that I wouldn’t be considered sexy or pretty if I didn’t have tons of skin showing.  You would catch me in something super low cut or sheer most days of the week.  Especially if I was going somewhere with my friends like the mall, movies, or a nightclub.  Shirts would be worn as dresses, bras would be a top, and the skirt had to be so short that bending over was a problem.  I recall one time when my friends and I went to a beach party and ran into one of my cousins.  My outfit was so revealing that she refused to walk around and be seen with me.  Yes, I said refused.  But showing off my body somehow made me feel confident.  So, I let her bust her moves elsewhere.  Plus, it felt like I was showing the world that I loved the way that I looked.  But was all of that necessary??

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    I can’t put my finger on when the switch happened but at some point my idea on showing my positive self image switched.  I started to notice that I felt like I was showing off when I’d wear a baby doll dress and sneakers.  Or jeans with a sweater and low booties.  I also noticed that my guy loads up on the compliments on outfits that I wouldn’t think would turn his head.  He loves seeing me in a jogging suit.  It was weird to me but I realized how I still felt confident and positive with my body when I am completely covered up.

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    These days, judging by social media.  You only love yourself if you are posting up naked.  Its like you have to show how much you love your body by being damn near naked in every photo.

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    Showing it all seems to be taken to a whole new level thanks to some peoples need for likes on the ‘Gram and other social media platforms.  Okay, I can understand posting a picture of someone in a bra and panty set because they have a lingerie brand.  But some of the shit is too much.  For instance, I ran across a picture of a girl who was completely naked.  Only putting a small butterfly emoji over her vagina and blurring out her nipples.  I look at her bio and it read, “I have my Bachelors and Masters in Business.”  Girl please.  Then post a pic of you studying.  What’s the point?  Does being butt ass naked for all of the world to see say to the world that she has a healthy body image??  Which do you think?

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    It is even worse with celebrities.  They will drop a naked pic or sex tape and claim their phone was hacked or stolen so fast.  Yea okay.  It is all for the need to either make people want more or to show off that body.  Who do they think they are fooling?  Then if you happen to comment on people showing all of their guts, you are accused of body shaming.

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    I still love a good mini skirt, bra top, or t-shirt dress and you will definitely see me in one or all of them.  I just don’t feel like I HAVE to do it to make me feel sexy.  What does having a positive body image mean to you?  Do you have to show it all??  Let me know your thoughts in the comments…

    Stay Fearless  💋

  • How To Be The Best Version Of You

    How To Be The Best Version Of You

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    As the new year has just begun you’re bound to be thinking or have already thought about how you can change your life and yourself. However, change isn’t always the best and can often end up with failure and disappointment because ultimately you are you, so how about you work on being the best version of yourself! If you haven’t already, you should really get to know yourself, learn to love yourself, and then you can see where you want to – not need to, but want to improve. So here are a few ways you can become the best you:

    Don’t Worry About Failing

    Easier said than done, yes. But if you don’t try, you’ll never know. Are you worried about what other people think? Are you concerned about the future and what you hope to achieve? Do you tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed or thrive in order to lower expectations?

    There is a real condition called atychiphobia, or fear of failure, but it is important to realise that failure is a natural part of life and doesn’t signal the end of the world. Most highly successful people, such as J.K Rowling, Richard Branson, and Bill Gates have all failed at some point in their life, read their books and feel inspired. Remember: “Fear will do one thing and one thing only: hold you back.” – Kya Aliana

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    Don’t Be Afraid Of Success

    It’s very common, you worry when everything is going well, but in your mind, life can’t possibly be this great, so naturally, something goes wrong as expected? People are afraid of success for a number of reasons, such as fear of losing their identity, more responsibility being added, raised expectations, and not being able to handle success well. But success is a good thing and something you deserve. You can handle success by staying authentic and remembering who you are, accept that you won’t please everyone, and be comfortable with every decision you make.

    Work Out In The Morning

    A simple one, but so effective. If you can drag yourself out of bed in the morning, your energy will be much better or the rest of the day and your health will be better for it. You’ll get it out of the way, you won’t sit through work dreading your workout later and talking yourself out of it, and you won’t sit at home in the evening feeling guilty for not doing it. Whether you want to lose weight or just need toning workout plans, no one ever regrets a workout, getting up and getting active is the best way to start the day.

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    Be Grateful

    It might sound silly, but give it a try. Every morning or night, write down three things that you’re grateful for that day. It will make you feel much happier. You could write them in a little book or on post-its and put them into a jar. Then, anytime you’re feeling down or stuck, just have a flick through the book or take one note out of the jar and read it, it’s incredible.

    Don’t Criticise Or Judge Others

    To become the best version of yourself, you need to try and get rid of negative thoughts and energy. If you’re thinking negative thoughts about others and feeling negativity towards others, then you’re throwing negative energy at people and potentially damaging a person’s self-worth and self-esteem. You’re also throwing negative energy out into the universe yourself. Remember that nice people do come out on top, it might not seem it at the time, and it might feel like it takes longer, but ultimately you will achieve more than those who are selfish and bitter with the world. You can avoid criticising and judging others by not assuming anything; know it’s not about you, and pretend to walk in their shoes to see the situation from their perspective.

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    Be Positive About Yourself

    Don’t say to yourself, “I will never lose weight.”; “I’m so stupid, I could never do that job.”; “I’ll look stupid and weird if I try to wear some of those clothes.” Try to silence your inner critic and put a positive spin on things. You can start by eliminating negative vocabulary, such as always, can’t, never (and ever), won’t, but, should, and try. As Yoda would say, “Do or do not. There is no try.” and remember that you can do it, think of all the things you have achieved already – you can do it.

    Thoughts?? Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

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