Tag: positive body image

  • Does Self-Love Mean You Have To Show It All?

    Does Self-Love Mean You Have To Show It All?

    Having a positive image of your body is so important.  It is probably something that our parents don’t help us with enough.  They say, “Love yourself”, “Go to school”, and “Eat your vegetables”.  But there should definitely be more sayings flying around the house along the lines of “love the body you were given”, “don’t compare yourself to others”, “having a big butt or big boobs doesn’t make you beautiful” and “don’t give someone the power to think you aren’t pretty enough because you don’t fit into their box”.

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    Granted…these are all things that I know now.  But I’ll admit that it took me some time to grow up and understand that.

    During my teens and 20s,  I had the misconception that I wouldn’t be considered sexy or pretty if I didn’t have tons of skin showing.  You would catch me in something super low cut or sheer most days of the week.  Especially if I was going somewhere with my friends like the mall, movies, or a nightclub.  Shirts would be worn as dresses, bras would be a top, and the skirt had to be so short that bending over was a problem.  I recall one time when my friends and I went to a beach party and ran into one of my cousins.  My outfit was so revealing that she refused to walk around and be seen with me.  Yes, I said refused.  But showing off my body somehow made me feel confident.  So, I let her bust her moves elsewhere.  Plus, it felt like I was showing the world that I loved the way that I looked.  But was all of that necessary??

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    I can’t put my finger on when the switch happened but at some point my idea on showing my positive self image switched.  I started to notice that I felt like I was showing off when I’d wear a baby doll dress and sneakers.  Or jeans with a sweater and low booties.  I also noticed that my guy loads up on the compliments on outfits that I wouldn’t think would turn his head.  He loves seeing me in a jogging suit.  It was weird to me but I realized how I still felt confident and positive with my body when I am completely covered up.

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    These days, judging by social media.  You only love yourself if you are posting up naked.  Its like you have to show how much you love your body by being damn near naked in every photo.

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    Showing it all seems to be taken to a whole new level thanks to some peoples need for likes on the ‘Gram and other social media platforms.  Okay, I can understand posting a picture of someone in a bra and panty set because they have a lingerie brand.  But some of the shit is too much.  For instance, I ran across a picture of a girl who was completely naked.  Only putting a small butterfly emoji over her vagina and blurring out her nipples.  I look at her bio and it read, “I have my Bachelors and Masters in Business.”  Girl please.  Then post a pic of you studying.  What’s the point?  Does being butt ass naked for all of the world to see say to the world that she has a healthy body image??  Which do you think?

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    It is even worse with celebrities.  They will drop a naked pic or sex tape and claim their phone was hacked or stolen so fast.  Yea okay.  It is all for the need to either make people want more or to show off that body.  Who do they think they are fooling?  Then if you happen to comment on people showing all of their guts, you are accused of body shaming.

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    I still love a good mini skirt, bra top, or t-shirt dress and you will definitely see me in one or all of them.  I just don’t feel like I HAVE to do it to make me feel sexy.  What does having a positive body image mean to you?  Do you have to show it all??  Let me know your thoughts in the comments…

    Stay Fearless  💋

  • How To Be The Best Version Of You

    How To Be The Best Version Of You

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    As the new year has just begun you’re bound to be thinking or have already thought about how you can change your life and yourself. However, change isn’t always the best and can often end up with failure and disappointment because ultimately you are you, so how about you work on being the best version of yourself! If you haven’t already, you should really get to know yourself, learn to love yourself, and then you can see where you want to – not need to, but want to improve. So here are a few ways you can become the best you:

    Don’t Worry About Failing

    Easier said than done, yes. But if you don’t try, you’ll never know. Are you worried about what other people think? Are you concerned about the future and what you hope to achieve? Do you tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed or thrive in order to lower expectations?

    There is a real condition called atychiphobia, or fear of failure, but it is important to realise that failure is a natural part of life and doesn’t signal the end of the world. Most highly successful people, such as J.K Rowling, Richard Branson, and Bill Gates have all failed at some point in their life, read their books and feel inspired. Remember: “Fear will do one thing and one thing only: hold you back.” – Kya Aliana

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    Don’t Be Afraid Of Success

    It’s very common, you worry when everything is going well, but in your mind, life can’t possibly be this great, so naturally, something goes wrong as expected? People are afraid of success for a number of reasons, such as fear of losing their identity, more responsibility being added, raised expectations, and not being able to handle success well. But success is a good thing and something you deserve. You can handle success by staying authentic and remembering who you are, accept that you won’t please everyone, and be comfortable with every decision you make.

    Work Out In The Morning

    A simple one, but so effective. If you can drag yourself out of bed in the morning, your energy will be much better or the rest of the day and your health will be better for it. You’ll get it out of the way, you won’t sit through work dreading your workout later and talking yourself out of it, and you won’t sit at home in the evening feeling guilty for not doing it. Whether you want to lose weight or just need toning workout plans, no one ever regrets a workout, getting up and getting active is the best way to start the day.

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    Be Grateful

    It might sound silly, but give it a try. Every morning or night, write down three things that you’re grateful for that day. It will make you feel much happier. You could write them in a little book or on post-its and put them into a jar. Then, anytime you’re feeling down or stuck, just have a flick through the book or take one note out of the jar and read it, it’s incredible.

    Don’t Criticise Or Judge Others

    To become the best version of yourself, you need to try and get rid of negative thoughts and energy. If you’re thinking negative thoughts about others and feeling negativity towards others, then you’re throwing negative energy at people and potentially damaging a person’s self-worth and self-esteem. You’re also throwing negative energy out into the universe yourself. Remember that nice people do come out on top, it might not seem it at the time, and it might feel like it takes longer, but ultimately you will achieve more than those who are selfish and bitter with the world. You can avoid criticising and judging others by not assuming anything; know it’s not about you, and pretend to walk in their shoes to see the situation from their perspective.

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    Be Positive About Yourself

    Don’t say to yourself, “I will never lose weight.”; “I’m so stupid, I could never do that job.”; “I’ll look stupid and weird if I try to wear some of those clothes.” Try to silence your inner critic and put a positive spin on things. You can start by eliminating negative vocabulary, such as always, can’t, never (and ever), won’t, but, should, and try. As Yoda would say, “Do or do not. There is no try.” and remember that you can do it, think of all the things you have achieved already – you can do it.

    Thoughts?? Let me know in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

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  • Fearless Woman: Chrissie Webber

    Happy Fearless Woman Friday 💙

    We are back again with another fantastic episode of Fearless Woman!  This week Chrissie Webber shares herself in a way that no other fearless women has to date.  But there is certainly a reason for it.  She shares her fearless story of how she found her way past a  negative body image and learned how to love herself and all of her ‘wobbly bits’ as she likes to call it!  Take a listen to Chrissies’ story and it will make alot more sense.  Prepare to be inspired!

                 

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