Tag: motherhood

  • Fearless Woman: Tanya Regan

    Fearless Woman: Tanya Regan

    Tanya Regan is a speaker, creator, and filmmaker in Mandurah Western Australia. She uses her art of storytelling to teach, heal, connect, and inspire.

    I reached out to Tanya about sharing her fearless journey and sent her some questions so that we can get all up in her fearless living business. This is what she said…

    1. Tell us what life was like before you began your fearless journey into making short social impact documentaries?

    In late 2016 I was heavily pregnant with my third child and my mental health was not in a good place.

    I was having a baby girl and I wanted to show her what a strong woman looked like…. AND I DID NOT FEEL LIKE A STRONG WOMAN.

    I spent my days counting down the clock to when my husband would get home from work. We had only recently moved to a new town, where I did not know anyone. I was isolated and lonely. I never felt like I was doing a decent job as a mum. I felt like I did not know what I was doing. I poured all of myself into my children and there was nothing left for me.

    Going into 2017 I made a new year resolution to be more creative. It was my attempt to fill my cup and do something for me, but I also did not know where to start with creativity. Just after my baby was born, I started developing myself as a creative person by doing a self-guided course in creative recovery called The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron.

    Every morning I would breastfeed my baby until she fell asleep and then I held her for a couple of hours while I worked through the exercises in the book. I was scared my baby would wake up if I put her in her cot, so I just kept holding her all through her nap while I worked on ‘me’.

    My creativity started to open and how I saw the world changed. I realized that creativity was not something that I had to magic from nothing, but it was an energy that I could learn how to tap into. By the time my baby was one year old I was so creatively inspired that I was making my first short film.

    When I made that film, I did not even have a camera, so I borrowed my dad’s old handy cam. I used what I had, borrowed what I did not have, and I just made it work. That film was a finalist in a film festival and played in a local movie theatre on the big screen.

    I knew that I had to find a way to fill my own cup again.



    2. What made you want to take the leap and start your company?

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    It was in the process of making that first film that I was able to re-create my identity. I had lost myself in being a mum but then I found myself through being creative.

    I have now made ten short documentaries. My films are about the themes of creativity, connection, and nature. It is an art for me and a way that I express myself.

    3. What have you learned about yourself during this journey?

    I have learned that wherever you are in your personal life story you can always choose to be your own hero.

    I was a lonely and sad, 37-year-old, stay at home mum when I made my first short film. I did not own a camera. I was new in my country town and did not even know anyone who I could interview.

    Working on myself and connecting with my creativity empowered my inner magic.

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    4. What would you do over again before you took the leap? (If anything)

    If I could do it all over again, I would have started sooner. I lost time doubting myself.

    5. What is life like since you have taken the leap into fearless living?

    I feel like me again, but a better version of me because I am doing fulfilling work now. My biggest challenge now is balancing being a mum of three children who are still young, with being a filmmaker and creative person.


    6. Tell us about your films.

    My films are 2 to 5 minutes long and are all human stories with a social impact message. I believe that creativity, connection, and nature have been devalued by our society and so those are the messages that play throughout my films.

    My films are available to view online at www.tanyaregan.me

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    7. What is one useful tip you would share about how to juggle motherhood with all the other things you are doing in life?

    My biggest tip for other women juggling motherhood with all the other things we are meant to do is to know your season.

    It would not have been possible for me to make a film when my baby was a newborn, however, I could breastfeed her while I developed my own creativity.

    Even now, I would love to be working on a feature film, but my children are still young and of course demanding. I do not want to miss that so for me it is about finding a balance and that balance is constantly changing.


    The key for me to be a good mum is to fill my cup. Creativity is one of the ways I do that, but I have also found other ways now too.

    8. What has been the most difficult part of your journey?

    When I have mum life and filmmaker life in balance, I am great. When I am out of balance, which is what happened for me again at the beginning of the pandemic, it all goes a bit pear shaped.

    Celebrate yourself for your own baby steps, for your own progress and know what your own limits are.


    9. What has been the most rewarding part of your journey?

    The most amazing part of the creative journey is when that creative spark first hits you. There is an excitement and aliveness of making something that does not yet exist and bringing it into form. Receiving feedback from people that they feel “seen and heard” in my films as they connect to the messages, that is the cherry on the top for me.

    10. How do you stay motivated when things get tough?

    (laughs) I usually have a temporary breakdown, I might cry for a bit, I let myself feel the tough feelings. Then I dust myself, take a deep breath and work with what I have.

    11. Share something about your journey that you feel is important that we have addressed.

    If it feels good, do it.

    If it feels heavy, put it down.


    Excitement and fear can sometimes feel remarkably similar. Feel into the difference and then take inspired action.

    Then take one intuitive step after the other and if things mess up be kind to yourself, be ok with mistakes, and then take another step.

    One foot in front of the other, one step at a time, that is how we move forward.


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    Wanna keep up with Tanya and her story? 👇🏾www.tanyaregan.me

    Leave your thoughts on this wonderful story in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

     

  • Here Is What I’ve Decided About My Post Baby Body

    Here Is What I’ve Decided About My Post Baby Body

    A few weeks back, I shared with you that I have begun my journey to get back to my pre-baby weight. I originally started slowly in December by exercising 3 times per week. Without making any changes to my diet.

    After doing that for about a month, I decided it was time to increase my workouts to 4 times per week. Then, I cut out my worst enemy…potato chips. I mean, I’ve always eaten chips but I was obsessed with them during my pregnancy and never let them go.

    Working out with baby

    After a few more weeks of exercising on my cycling bike for 4 days per week. I didn’t notice much of a weight difference. So, I went back to a tried and true workout…HIIT! Which stands for High Intensity Interval Training. I used to do it all of the time before getting pregnant. I know that it works. Especially when combined cardio on my non-HIIT days.

    So, that’s where I am right now. Eating right and exercising for 5 days per week. Am I seeing a difference now? Yes…I certainly am. But I’ve realized something. I need to calm down!

    Healthy living and being active has been a big part of my life for as long as I can remember. So, gaining 35 pounds during pregnancy was a big deal for me! Looking in the mirror was horrific.

    Then something changed…

     Changing workout

    It was on a day that I was doing a HIIT workout in my living room while my baby watched from his playpen. He started crying and wanted me to pick him up. I kept stopping to soothe him and to breastfeed. For a millisecond, I got frustrated. All I wanted to do was get this workout done so I could be one step closer to my weight loss goal. But it suddenly dawned on me to live in the moment. He would only be this small for a small amount of time. All he knows is that he wants his Mama. And I’ll I’ve ever want was to be his Mama.

    This is a once in a lifetime opportunity for me. History has shown that the weight will come off with consistency. I’ve done it before. I know this, for sure. Who cares if it took me 1 hour to do a 30 minute workout. I should be proud of the fact that my body was able to produce this beautiful baby boy. Relish in the kisses and hugs I get from my baby. That’s what really matters.

    Baby in stroller

    My son adores me. My husband does too. And I’ve decided to love my post pregnancy body just as much as I loved my pre-pregnancy body. I reach my goal, when I reach my goal. And I’m perfectly satisfied with that.

    If you can related, let me know how you got through it in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋

  • Why didnt anyone tell me this before i became a mom?

    I’ve been in full on mommy mode since having my first baby about 5 months ago. Changing diapers, breastfeeding, rocking my baby to sleep, and entertaining him ’round the clock. And I couldn’t feel happier. This Mom thing is definitely what I am supposed to be doing.

    I received tons of Mommy tips before my son arrived but there are lots of things that I wasn’t told. Here’s some of the ‘ish no one told me.

    You will worry about everything. I spend most of the day wondering if he’s okay. From deciphering a cough to examining poop color and making sure his nostrils aren’t blocked. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    Ambidexterity and doing everything with one hand is essential. When my baby falls asleep in my arms, I would do anything to not disturb him. I’m left handed and before having him, I couldn’t do anything with my right hand. Not anymore!! I’ve learned to use whatever hand is free at the time. From changing diapers to washing dishes.

    Learn how to hold your pee. Like a previously mentioned, disturbing a baby is the worst! Once they fall asleep in a certain position, know that you are stuck in the position you’re in until they wake up. Get ready to hold it for a looooong time!

    Get used to living like a zombie. I haven’t had more than 3 hours of sleep at one time since my second trimester. My third trimester left me so uncomfortable that sleeping was a joke. Then after having the baby, the real sleepless nights set in. Either I’m up feeding and changing the baby or I’m up just staring at him all night making sure he’s okay.

    Learn how to make up a song and dance at the drop of a hat. The art of distraction is key when taking care of a baby. Singing a song can quickly pivot a baby from crying to laughing. You can make up anything. They don’t care. So, tune up your vocal chords.

    There’s much more I was never told but I’m always up for a surprise. So it’s all good! Cheers to all of the Moms and Dads out there making it happen. No matter what!

    Is there something you learned when you became a parent that you did know anything about?? Drop it in the comments…

    Stay Fearless 💋