Tag: midlife health

  • Turned 48 And 2 Things Happened In Perimenopause That Was Unexpected

    Turned 48 And 2 Things Happened In Perimenopause That Was Unexpected

    I recently turned 48 years old. What did I do to celebrate? Let’s see…we took my son to the park, had his favorite dinner and spent the evening laying on the couch with my family watching a movie.

    That might sound boring to you but honestly….it was perfect. So many birthday celebrations I’ve spent partying, traveling, and drinking until I couldn’t stand. Not to say I won’t ever do any of those things but this year was the exact opposite. Yet, arguably one of the best.

    Birthday parties including lots of people and my phone blowing up with Happy Birthday messages was something I knew wasn’t going to be happening this year. And probably for the rest of my years. And that’s how I want it.

    On December 26th, I knew things were going to change for me when it came to relationships. Because that was the day that I decided that those boundaries that I kept breaking could no longer be broken. Since saying “no” and showing up was changing how people saw me or viewed you. But that’s okay because I want authenticity.

    Not caring about how people feel about this is the most freeing part of keeping the boundaries. It’s like something switched and I just knew things had to change.

    My lack of feeling bad had me wondering if this had anything to do with perimenopause. I was shocked to see that it did. There’s a scientific explanation why our empathy decreases during this season of life.

    I went even deeper to see if my need to throw away everything had to do with perimenopause. And again, clearing out things had a direct correlation to perimenopause, too

    There’s so many things that I’ve been doing seemingly out of nowhere. But it actually has to do with perimenopause.

    I’m going to get into the biology behind it now but in another post. Here’s my video about it.

    If you’re in this season of life too and want to get back into movement but don’t know where to start; I made something for you.

    The Midlife Starter Guide 👇🏾

    https://quietrebuildclub.com/free-starter-guide/

    Until then, let me know in the comments if you’re going through this, too. Let’s create boundaries and throw away stuff together. 😊

    Build in silence. Show up for yourself.

  • The Difference Between Tired and Overtrained (And Why It Matters in Perimenopause)

    The Difference Between Tired and Overtrained (And Why It Matters in Perimenopause)

    There’s a version of fitness advice that says: push through. Show up no matter what. No excuses.

    And then there’s the reality of being a woman in perimenopause. Where some days, “pushing through” is the worst thing you can do for your body.

    Here’s the thing nobody tells you: tired and overtrained are not the same thing. One is a signal to keep going. The other is a signal to stop. Learning the difference might be the most useful thing you do for your fitness this year.

    Why This Matters More After 40

    During perimenopause, your cortisol levels, your body’s primary stress hormone, are already running higher than they used to. Add a hard workout on top of that, and you’re not building strength. You’re adding stress to an already stressed system.

    (If you missed last week’s post on cortisol and exercise, that’s a good place to start.)

    This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work out. It means you need to be smarter about when to push and when to pull back. And that starts with knowing what you’re actually feeling.

    Signs You’re Overtrained (Stop. Rest. Today.)

    These are signals your body is asking for more than a good night’s sleep:

    • Joint pain. Not muscle soreness, actual joint pain.
    • You wake up exhausted after 7+ hours of sleep. Rest isn’t restoring you.
    • Your mood has crashed. Feeling irritated with low motivation and feeling emotionally fragile.
    • You’re dreading workouts you used to enjoy. Not just “don’t feel like it,” but actual dread
    • Headache when you wake up. Your nervous system is overtaxed

    If you’re checking two or more of these, today is a rest day. No negotiation.

    Signs It’s Safe to Keep Going (Modified, If Needed)

    These are not reasons to skip. These are the normal friction of a real fitness routine:

    • Low motivation and you just don’t feel like it.
    • Normal muscle soreness. The kind that eases once you start moving.
    • You slept okay but feel a little sluggish.
    • You’re stressed but not depleted.
    • You haven’t moved in two or more days.

    These are go-slowly signals. A 20-minute walk counts. A modified version of your planned workout counts. Showing up in a smaller way still counts.

    The Rule Worth Keeping

    Pain is a stop signal. Discomfort is a go-slowly signal. Low motivation is not a signal; it’s noise.

    Print that out if you need to. Save it on your phone. It will save you from both overtraining and from talking yourself out of workouts that would actually help.

    What Helps When You’re Genuinely Depleted

    • Prioritize sleep over the workout. A consistent wake time regulates your system more than any workout.
    • Gentle movement only: a slow walk, stretching, or the 5-minute wind-down from the rest protocol.
    • Check what’s depleting you outside of exercise. Stress, under-eating, poor sleep all count as load on your system

    Want the full rest and recovery protocol built for the perimenopausal body? It’s inside the Quiet Rebuild Starter Kit; including exactly when to rest, when to push, and how to do a 5-minute wind-down after every workout.

    If you’re ready for a full structured plan that works with your hormones instead of against them, the 7-Day Midlife Reset Guide walks you through exactly what to do — day by day, with the rest days built in. It’s $27, or $47 with the lots of extras.

    Because consistency isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about showing up smarter.

    Build in silence. Show up for yourself.
    — Quiet Rebuild Club · quietrebuildclub.com