I’ve said this at least a million times on Fashion Not Fear, so I’m sure you’d heard it before but here it goes again…Being fearless is hard! I mean really hard. Giving up and just letting yourself go where life takes you is one thing. But can you imagine waking up everyday to slay the fear dragon by any means necessary? When you’re living the fearless life, you HAVE to! Because fear will come up constantly. Quitting and letting the chips fall where they may isn’t an option for a fearless woman. Nope…choosing to not let fear run you is like a job. The pay and benefits are amazing but you have to put in the work to reap the benefits.
I’ve said this at least a million times on Fashion Not Fear, so I’m sure you’d heard it before but here it goes again…Being fearless is hard! I mean really hard. Giving up and just letting yourself go where life takes you is one thing. But can you imagine waking up everyday to slay the fear dragon by any means necessary? When you’re living the fearless life, you HAVE to! Because fear will come up constantly. Quitting and letting the chips fall where they may isn’t an option for a fearless woman. Nope…choosing to not let fear run you is like a job. The pay and benefits are amazing but you have to put in the work to reap the benefits.
Just a few days ago, I woke up, looked at the long list of things to do for an upcoming pop up shop in Austin, and for a millisecond thought….”I can’t do this. It’s too much.” The fear within me tried to convince me to quit working on my pieces and not do the show. What was the harm? That would be the easy thing to do, right? But being fearless and quitting your goals don’t work together at all. So, instead of letting fear settle in, I jumped up, pinned that list to my vision board and got to work!
Fear shows up all of the time. And not just the fear you have within yourself but fear that others have that they try to put on you. For instance, a few weeks ago I’m riding in the car with my fiancé and step brother. During our ride, the ideas on how to run a business came up. Admist this conversation, my step brother proceeds to tell me that he knows that I have a “little business” but one of our cousins and my step sister are really the “smart ones”. They can grow a great business together (according to him). Meanwhile, I started a business from the ground up 4 years ago and have been doing my thang!! At that moment, I could’ve let his fears hinder me, “maybe he’s right. they are smarter than me? my little business isn’t going anywhere.” But instead, I chuckled to myself, thanked God for my fearlessness and business savvy, and kept it moving.
To be honest, I will have you here all day if I listed all of the moments that fear tried hinder me from doing something. Or when fear from others tried to jump onto my spirit. But it’s not happening! If you have found yourself in a fearless slump, don’t worry, your girl is here for you! Here are 3 ways that I keep myself fearless tank on full:
# 1 – Know that you don’t have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. Its like someone who is rich and feel the need to tell you all of the time. Or someone who is educated yet they feel the need to constantly tell you about all of the degrees that they have. If you got it, you don’t have to say it. If fearlessness lives within you, there isn’t a need to tell everyone who comes into your face that you’re fearless. It will show in your walk and your actions. Be confident about your journey and remember why you started.
# 2 – Don’t be so hard on yourself. There will be times when you just aren’t feeling it. Don’t get down. Give yourself a few minutes to worry and doubt yourself, then let it go. Who has time or a pity party?!
# 3 – Fuck What You Heard – Don’t let others tell you what you can or cannot achieve. They aren’t you. We are all uniquely different so how are they gonna tell you what you can do? Although, getting them to shut up about it might be easier said then done. The listening part is up to you. Nicely advise them that you weren’t asking for their opinion. Or walk out of the room until the conversation changes. But never let the see you sweat. K.I.M…Keep it moving!
# 4 – Take A Break – Do something that doesn’t require thought, fearless or anything at all for that matter. Sometimes you have to get away and rejuvenate. Take a walk outside and get some vitamin D, watch something funny on Netflix or your favorite podcast, read a chapter from the book you have yet to crack open. Doing something mindless to give you brain a break for the fearless resurgence you need.
I truly believe however, that what is for you is FOR YOU and no one can take that away. Not friends or family, fear or anything else, as long as you put in the work to get to where you want to be. Keep your head up, stay positive, and do you!! Which tips were your favorite or what do you do when you are in a fearless slump?? Let me know in the comments…
Stay Fearless 💋
